My student is in love with me. What do I do?
Love is a present feeling in all the stages of our life. Love can be expressed in many ways and encompasses many other feelings, such as affection, appreciation, consideration and respect, and that is one of the reasons why these problems called “confusion of feelings” often arise. Falling in love is often confused with other feelings, such as admiration, obsession, tastes, etc.
This is what you have to do if you are a teacher and you believe or you know that a student is in love with you.
Before acting we must first consider a very important aspect: Student’s age.
My preschooler / initial student is in love with me. What do I do?
If a 4-year-old student says sweetly to you: “I love you teacher Diana”, possibly that child does not even know the meaning of the word “love”, and what he tries to express is a feeling of affection and gratitude for be a good teacher with him. In this case it is not considered a serious problem, so as preschool or primary teachers we should not exaggerate with this fact, because it is not really an alarming situation, they are “children’s things”.
My Primary student is in love with me What to do?
If a 9 year old student says to you: “I love you teacher Diana”, in this case we have to pay more attention, a child of 9 or 10 years has a confused idea of what it is to love, maybe what he tries to say is another thing: that you admire and respect, in this case it is important that you talk to him and explain the meaning of this word, prevents a student of 9, 10 or 11 years, use those terms with you, because it can be misunderstood by other teachers and students.
My Secondary student is in love with me What to do?
In the case that an adolescent student, that is to say high school, with an age of 15 to 17, says “I love you teacher Diana”, this is a very serious problem, and if you do not solve it, you could be harmed in a big way, It is very important that from the beginning you stop these behaviors. At this age adolescents have many problems of confusion of feelings, a teenager in love, could even become obsessed with the person who says love, and that is very dangerous. What to do?
Do not give more confidence:
It is very important to take care of this aspect of trust, a student in love could confuse a smile, a look and words like a hint of “Mutual Love”, remember that at this age young people get confused and can even exaggerate some things, If you have noticed that this teenager feels something for you or maybe has told you, avoid smiling, keep your seriousness, do not give him more confidence and go to the next point.
Discuss with the student
Talk to him, if possible in an open classroom and with a support teacher, to avoid misunderstandings by other students. Explain your discomfort without disturbing you, let him know that it is not right, that you are uncomfortable, it is very important to emphasize this point of discomfort, the adolescent is usually very bad interpreting and good exaggerating, although it sounds funny, it is possible that the student Some time I have thought that you feel the same for him. Remember to keep serious and avoid smiling.
If it is not enough that you have dialogued with him or want to skip that step, try talking to his parents directly or campus authority.